Parenting as a Pilgimage of the Soul

Posted By on March 5, 2012

Not a single day goes by where I am not thanking my lucky stars for my family. Particularly the days when I am tested and challenged.

In the same way that muscles can’t strengthen without resistance, humans cannot grow without challenges and obstacles. So when my children push me to my limits, I view it as opportunity to learn and grow. I ask myself, what is it about their frustration, anger, sadness or rebellion that I am reacting to? How can I find peace in witnessing their human experience?

Through a lifetime of study, and devotion to my children, I have created a solution which requires me to adopt a new idea. This idea involves not the modern view, where parenting is a job or a responsibility, rather, parenting as a pilgrimage of the soul. How the act of parenting (guiding yet accepting and loving our children just as they are) is part of our path toward spiritual enlightenment.

Someday, we may look upon them and say, “Wow, look how beautifully they struggle to learn their lesson.” With no attachments, offering what we can to keep them safe, nurture their light, understand their needs and be patient with their strategies to meet those needs.

In the workshop last Saturday, Many Hands Make Light Work, I explored with families how sharing our living space is part of that pilgrimage and how we can learn from it together.

About The Author

I am a Chinese-American mother of three boys, parenting with the traditions worth keeping from the East and West. I continue to learn new ways of raising a family and myself.


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