In Paradise with Dad

| April 7, 2013

Why wasn’t dad going to his only son’s wedding? Then we won’t need to drive three extra hours to see him after flying for five hours. Does he not care any more about his family? Those were some thoughts that went through my mind before the trip. These were judgements and accusations stemming from my [...]

Different Ways to Express Love

| August 13, 2012

After traveling for two days in the car, my children and I picked up my mom in Seattle. We went to a beach and biked on a family bike in the morning. In the afternoon, she wanted to go shopping at Macy’s. It would not have been my first choice, but it was also my [...]

The Divine Mystery introduced me to a Chinese sister

| April 11, 2012

For so long my image of China has been colored by a century of revolution, wounds in my family of origin and the disenchanted Chinese people I’ve encountered in the US and in China, and of course, the internet news articles I happen across. Perhaps what the wise ones say is true: we collect evidence [...]

Translating for mom and how it saved our relationship.

| May 4, 2011

When may parents were learning to survive in New York City shortly after immigrating from China, I was their translator for many essential purposes. By age 8, I translated: bills, contracts, directions, movies, music, the news, I was even the translator for the parent teacher conferences. When there is a need, we must decide, can [...]

Chinese New Year: Love and Gratitude

| February 21, 2011

Chinese New Year is the holiday I remember celebrating most as a child. I would wear my nice clothes and go out to Chinatown with my mom and brother. We’d walk through the streets thronged with people, dragon dances and endless noise of fire crackers. We’d wait for what seemed like hours to get a table [...]