Practice what you preach, the art of mothering yourself

Posted By on February 6, 2012

How many times have we as mothers reminded our children to go to bed early, to sit at the table and eat with the family, to clean up their room, to go outside and get some fresh air?  And how many times would we have appreciated someone reminding us of the same things? How many of us would have benefited from a taste of our own medicine?  What would happen if we practiced what we preached and mothered ourselves?

In the midst of the flu, all three of my children stayed home from school and I stayed home from work.  After lunch, I asked them all to take a nap, regardless of whether or not they would fall asleep. I wanted them to rest in quiet and darkness.

10 minutes later, my 10 year old son, came out of the bedroom and stood next to me as I was working on the computer.  “Why aren’t you napping?” He asked, “You’re not feeling well either.”

What could I say?  He was right.  Why wasn’t I napping?  What message am I sending to my children? Now, I can go on and on about work I needed to do but the bottom-line is I could benefit from a nap and some rest… so I did.

As I laid down, I pondered, how often have we, as mothers – as nurturers, tend to the needs of everyone around us and often forget to nurture ourselves?

So I challenged myself, and I challenge all the mothers and women out there, who nurture, who love, who tend to our families, profession, community, clients, to practice what we preach and mother ourselves – the way we want to be mothered, with compassion, patience, love and joy.  And, in the same way we teach our children to ask when they need help, we can do that too.

About The Author

I am a Chinese-American mother of three boys, parenting with the traditions worth keeping from the East and West. I continue to learn new ways of raising a family and myself.


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