Belonging in the Chinese Language

Posted By on April 22, 2010

In Chinese culture, which is reflected its language, the sense and value of place and belonging in a family system is very important. Every person in a family has a specific name based on their relation to each other. For example, my “mah mah”, paternal grandmother, as opposed to my “paw paw”, maternal grandmother.  My “uhm gu gey” is the fifth child of my paternal grandmother or my dad’s younger sister. There is also my “die gu mah” whom I haven’t seen since I was 8 years old, first born child of my paternal grandmother. I have a specific title for each family member in my family that identifies exactly how we are related. Everyone knows their place in the family system to create order, hierarchy and, in many ways, peace.

The importance of our belonging in our family is profound and deeply felt. Family Constellations reveals what is missing or forgotten and restores it to its wholeness, so we can feel the love which flows so naturally from our ancestors.

The older generations support the younger generations while younger generations respect and honor the ancestors who came before them. In this way, love is served and continues to flow.

About The Author

I am a Chinese-American mother of three boys, parenting with the traditions worth keeping from the East and West. I continue to learn new ways of raising a family and myself.


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