Life is a patient teacher

Posted By on January 20, 2020

If I had all the time in the world like Bill Murray in the 1980s hit movie Groundhogs Day, all the things I would do. I morned to myself as I watched his character transform from a self centered ego-manic into a compassionate hero with a multitude of talents from ice sculpting to speaking French with what seemed like an endless number of chances for redos and practice.

What if I too am caught in a daily cycle of monotony? Daily life can be quite repetitive at times with the same activities, expectations, responsibilities, people, etc. What if I lived it as the best version of myself? And if I don’t, there is a lesson to be learned?

What if I have a choice to wake up everyday and have the opportunity to learn and do things I’ve always wanted to learn and do? Not for anyone’s affection or attention but for my own gratification that I’ve strived to live my best life.

As part of my on going efforts to simplify, transform, surrender the things that I no longer want or need to make space for things I want/need. Here is a loft I made with the wood salvaged from the shed I dismantled. 

I’m continuing on my path toward minimalism. I promised myself that I would give away one thing everyday for a year. I started November 2019.

I’ve started yoga again and accomplished a head stand for the first time in my 20+ years of yoga practice. I used to tell myself that “I can’t do that” or “It’s too hard”. Well, I can’t say that anymore. It is challenging, but it really gets easier every time I do a head stand.

I’m learning to read and speak French and Mandarin using Je parle souvent avec mon mari mais j’ai toujours peur de parler une autre personne en français.

Chinese steamed pork buns

I started cooking dishes that I’ve always avoided because I thought it was too complicated to make from scratch.

Cheesecake with blackberry swirls

I vowed that every family I see for work, I will be utterly present with them so that they may feel heard and seen just as they are, without judgement or expectation. And that every child that I meet, be welcomed in my heart with acceptance and patience. This includes my family.

I hope that everyday, I will give myself grace, that tomorrow is another day and I have another chance at life if I had not seized today. The learning opportunities that life offers will come back because life is a patient teacher. I just decided to pay attention in class.

About The Author

I am a Chinese-American mother of three boys, parenting with the traditions worth keeping from the East and West. I continue to learn new ways of raising a family and myself.


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