Left Behind

Posted By on June 14, 2012

My four year-old watched his classmates graduate kindergarten today … and I watched the complexity of my child unfold.

While parents and children were filing out. He turned to me with his head down. I knelt in front of him to listen and witness his experience.

“Why do I get nothing?” He said in a raspy voice. I think he meant why am I left behind.

I looked into his glistening brown eyes.

“Why do all my friends have to go to first grade?” His eyes pooling with tears.

“Six and seven year olds go to first grade to learn first grade things. And you will still see them in school.” I assured.

“But why can’t I go too?” Warm poignant tears streamed down his chubby cheeks. He spoke so quietly and softly.

I offered him a hug and he took it. “Your friends are all over the school, in every grade. You have friends who are still in this class …  How special is it to be in kindergarten! Both your brothers have said, if they could, they would return to kindergarten in a second.” I put a tissue over his nostrils and he blew.

What a sensitive and tender heart.

About The Author

I am a Chinese-American mother of three boys, parenting with the traditions worth keeping from the East and West. I continue to learn new ways of raising a family and myself.


2 Responses to “Left Behind”

  1. Min Yi says:

    Before falling asleep, Burian listed to me all the friends that graduated to first grade … change takes adjusting.

  2. Tamara says:

    You know, Sarah was so worried about River during the ceremony (he had a very hard time, and was wailing in the parking lot so you could have heard him in Springfield!), I don’t remember her being sad watching her friends go upstairs. But, this year (and Sarah’s year) have been so BIG! Gwen thought a lot about her friends back in the class.

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