A mother’s ego.

Posted By on May 30, 2012

The ego separates you from the world. The ego says you are either with or without.  Your ego will convince you that you are in control.

My ego emerged briefly last night when I put my fists to my hips and started to raise my voice when my children and their friends didn’t even look at me when I asked them to wash their hands and come in for dinner, multiple times. After all that time, I slaved in the kitchen, I thought.

I call my children “ego busters”. They challenge my ego, they are catalysts for me to either keep doing what I’m doing but louder or find another way. A way that is enveloped in love, acceptance and compassion.

So I put my fists down and I went over to their game and played dodge ball with them. A few minutes into the game I announced that dinner was ready. We played, we laughed and they all came in gladly to wash their hands. After dinner, I asked that they each pick something to clean after dinner: put their dirty dishes to the sink, take out compost, sweep, mop and unload dishes. They did, gladly.

I set my ego aside that day. Taming her with a deep breath and a short dialogue: They’re having fun. Do you want to have fun, too?

Yes, yes, yes. Of course I do.

And I did.


ego (n.): A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.

“If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It’s very important to be aware of them every time they come up.” – Deepak Chopra

“All troubles come to an end when the ego dies.” – Ramakrishna

“Ego has a voracious appetite, the more you feed it, the hungrier it gets.“- Nathaniel Bronner Jr.

“To the ego, the present moment hardly exists. Only past and future are considered important. This total reversal of the truth accounts for the fact that in the ego mode, the mind is so dysfunctional. It is always concerned with keeping the past alive, because without it – who are you?” – Eckhart Tolle

About The Author

I am a Chinese-American mother of three boys, parenting with the traditions worth keeping from the East and West. I continue to learn new ways of raising a family and myself.


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