Wedding Vows

Posted By on June 22, 2010

Cameron and I remarried after 10 years of marriage and birth of three boys. On June 18, 2010, we exchanged new vows we wrote to each other in front of our dear friends…

If not for me, Min Yi, you would most certainly be loved by the masses. As it is, my heart channels that love instead. We have spent the past decade feeding each other and our sons, Jing Wen, Clayton and Burian, and i am grateful for as much time as i have had to spend with all of them. As we continue to explore with each other i feel such potential for growth as we step into our world with fresh challenges and opportunities. Not only are you a master of sharing your love, you are also wise and invaluable in your counsel to me whether it is a matter of integrity, business or honesty, no matter how painful or bliss filled. Hand in hand, i envision our continued travels together as we create our reality of wealth and beauty, while revering the road that has brought us here.
Standing beside you today (surrounded by our loved ones) i am reminded of the hope and promise i felt as we merged our destinies together ten years ago. Since then, i have grown in experience and understanding some of what manhood means. As i look back i see myself like a boy in his father’s shoes. The shoes looked so fine and glossy, but when i tried to walk in them, the toes would drag and inevitably i would trip and fall. But as the Japanese proverb goes, “Fall seven times, standup eight.”, and i continue to stand and each time as i walk beside you, with you in my heart, my feet grow a little bit more. Until now, when i look down (as i did all those years past) the shoes are no longer my father’s, because i have grown into them, and now i am bestowed with the responsibility and privilege they symbolize.
However i became graced with the blessings of you i’ll never know. You bring joy, understanding and meaning to life. Thank you for walking this path with me.

Min Yi:
Please forgive me if I have caused you any pain in the years we’ve been together.
I’m sorry for the burdens I’ve placed on you from my own fears, entanglements and insecurities.

Thank you for seeing the best version of myself.

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive.” ~Anäis Nin

Thank you for providing the ideal environment for me to grow and blossom into the light I am today. For introducing to me a part of myself I cherish.
Thank you for your patience in my personal growth as a mother, friend and a human being.
Thank you for giving me space to develop personally and spiritually.
For your creativity, light and laughter you bring into my life.
For rubbing my muscles when I am sore. For holding me when I am scared.
For your delicious culinary creations, new age architecture and innovative ways of living life.
For the myriads of ways you show me love.
For your loving dedication to our children and holding this family with your enormous heart.

“Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.”
— George Eliot

Thank you for sifting my words and keep what is worth keeping.

I , Min Yi Su, give to you, cameron joseph parker, with all my heart and to the best of my ability:

Patience and compassion for your own journey and discoveries.
My continued dedication to this family and everyone in it.
To be present and receive each moment just as it is.
To respect the choices you make.
To share with you my feelings without judgment.
And make requests without expectations.

Will you share this life with me for another five years?

About The Author

I am a Chinese-American mother of three boys, parenting with the traditions worth keeping from the East and West. I continue to learn new ways of raising a family and myself.


2 Responses to “Wedding Vows”

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  2. Victoria Destiny Walker says:

    My eye is better now, thank you – I was treated with some antiboitic ointment and am feeling much better now.

    These vows are so full of love, so wonderful that you have published them on your website. I send you all my warmth toward the next 5 years of mutually fulfilling partnership.

    My best to you, Cameron and your sweet boys,

    Victoria Destiny Walker

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